We all look at the world through windows. I'm not talking about the Microsoft GUI operating system. I am talking about our frame of reference. As our surroundings are altered, our window sees something different. We can't see everything. We can only see a frame of the entire world.
Our window is manipulated by our experiences. If you are around certain activities or behaviours, they become part of your frame of reference. They become the starting point by where you judge from. If you shift into a new environment your window will eventually change.
Our windows are significantly effected by the people we interact with every day. If you are around over-achievers most of the time you will tend to become one on your own. If the norm you see is being slack and lazy you will drift to that window.
The longer you spend with a group of people the more you will become like the people around you. Of course, you will retain some uniqueness and individuality, but your weaker norms will disappear, and only your strongest will remain.
There are other factors that will change our window. If the group you are in is quite homogeneous you will probably become like them faster and if you are similar or want to be similar to the group you will probably become like them sooner.
So where does this leave us?
Be around people you want to be like. If you want to be a pro bull rider, don't hang out with a bunch of hockey players. They will not help you move your window to one of a bull rider. Use the forces of nature around you to your advantage and the results will be amazing.
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